I have arrived

[ratherastory]

It is taking every single ounce of self-control I possess not to go and look, but apparently there's a side-swipe at me at the anon meme, on the topic of someone else's fic.

I don't know if that's good or bad or what. I mean, really? I am an obscure little gen writer in one small corner of fandom. I have no idea why I'd even be mentioned there, except maybe because I recc'd that fic a few times.

I am omitting names of authors & fics to protect the innocent & to avoid unnecessary wank. Please, dear readers, if you do end up commenting here, do the same.

I'm just kind of amused that these people think I'm commenting on the anon. meme in any capacity (that was the gist of the comment). As I have said in comments elsewhere: if you have an opinion strong enough to express, then stand up and OWN IT. I don't do anonymous. I sign my name (or my online handle, anyway) to whatever I write. Also? I don't generally have the time to scroll through that sort of meme. I stumbled across it once, accidentally (which is how I know where it is), and each entry is several pages of anonymous comments, which I don't have the time, inclination, or energy to scroll through.

That being said, I am a little sick of having my friends hurt by this stupid meme, though. In the past ten days, no fewer than five people on my flist have found themselves in that community's cross-hairs. It's petty and worthy only of high school, which, in my case, I left fifteen years ago. Been there, done that, don't need to revisit it, thank you very much.

In short, anyone who can't man up and own their words? Can kiss my ass.

Comments

[little-tristan.livejournal.com]

I've never heard of this. What is it?

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

Nothing important. An anonymous comment-meme thing in which people are supposedly expressing "honest" opinions about fandom. Mostly it seems to be an excuse for grudgewanking.

[little-tristan.livejournal.com]

I think I'm glad I've never seen it, then. Not that I'm important enough to be noticed (one of the perks of playing in the world's smallest fandom), but it sounds like a real bummer.

[dante-s-hell.livejournal.com]

Don't worry. You aren't missing a thing. You're better off not seeing it.

[sweetsyren.livejournal.com]

Oh for gods sake...

They suck arse so hard...

My feeling is this:



Or possibly:

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

I like the second gif there.

I'm not really upset. I think if they'd ragged on my fic I might be, but as it is I got off lightly.

I'm just... yeah. I don't know.

[sweetsyren.livejournal.com]

Doesn't sound like they do either...

I'm sorry that shit happened to you though love. That sucks backside.

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

*shrug*

I'm more annoyed about them saying mean things about my friends. I mean, come on! If they feel so strongly about the fic, then they should at least have the guts to sign their names.

[sweetsyren.livejournal.com]

I agree love. Thats just cowardly. I hate the whole Anon thing...it's just an excuse to bitch and whine with no comeback.

[chiiyo86.livejournal.com]

Ugh. Death to the anon meme! Too many people get hurt by it.

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

I am underwhelmed, to say the least.

[nyoka.livejournal.com]

Man, those folks complain about everything. Obviously the fact that you like a fic or a certain writer that they don't deem worthy of being liked...that means it's fair game to talk about you. Just wow.

You know I really wish I had the time these people seem to have. All that time complaining about fics, talking about people, and bashing people?? In all that time imagine how many Big Bangs could be written!

*see icon*

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

*points to own icon*

That's what I do instead of posting to anon memes. ;)

Obviously the fact that you like a fic or a certain writer that they don't deem worthy of being liked...that means it's fair game to talk about you. Just wow.

I'm a little fuzzy on their reasoning, myself. I get that not everyone has the same taste in fic, but really? I like someone's fic and THEREFORE I must be the anonymous person in the comments? *eyeroll*

[callistosh65.livejournal.com]

I'm puzzled - this is what, a meme you host at your own comm and then use to air grudges, or is this hosted at a specific comm??

Weird. And not something I want to be part of.

[ratherastory.livejournal.com]

It's a specific comm. And no, it's nothing you want anything to do with, trust me.

[primrose-1.livejournal.com]

I started following this fandom because I love the boys. I stay because I love the people I've met. It gets dark and nasty, then what's the point? Staying on the fuzzy bunny rainbow side of things and being clueless now. La la la la.

[seramercury.livejournal.com]

Ugh, how annoying!! Anon memes are annooying as hell! You're right, own up to it if you have a problem with someone!

Meg and I found out that they're going to have an anon for EVERY LAST BIG BANG story. It scares us and makes us not want to do anymore big bangs, which sucks cause they can be fun, ya know?

[callistosh65.livejournal.com]

God, this comm sounds like *poison*..

[ficwriter1966.livejournal.com]

"Meg and I found out that they're going to have an anon for EVERY LAST BIG BANG story."

That's *beyond* pathetic.

[saberivojo.livejournal.com]

I just heard this too. Why the fuck would anyone want to do Big Bang anymore if they are gonna blast everyone's best efforts and not have the balls to sign their name?

[peppervl.livejournal.com]

So you know what we do in response to that? We create a community where people do nothing but say GOOD things about the Big Bang stories.

Hell, I'd suggest we create a community where we say GOOD things about anyone and everyone targeted in the anon comm, but that giving them far too much attention.

[hansons-angel.livejournal.com]

Well, you already know my thoughts. I wish they'd at least have the guts to post under their LJ names. I'd feel like a piece of crap posting something bad about someone anonymously -- like am I such a low-life that I can't put my name behind my own opinions?

I'm not even sure it's a "grudge" thing -- most of these anon people are just bitching to bitch -- I can't think why else they'd complain about specific fics or writers or fandom members or whoever/whatever that they never really interact with. Jealousy? Boredom? WTF?

Go get your Jensen pic that has him pointing and saying, "Haters to the left," LOL.

[ficwriter1966.livejournal.com]

Are you in my brain?? Because YES. They're not only obnoxious and pathetic, they're cowardly. None of which makes them worth...anything.

That's one of the worst aspects of the Internet: allowing people to be cruel and completely anonymous at the same time. Yeah, that's all kinds of awesome.

[borgmama1of5.livejournal.com]

So let's all ignore them and then what happens? They amuse themselves and we don't pay any attention, so we win.

I've been in fandom for about eight months and 95% of my experience has been positive. There are lots of amazing writers, and some not-quite-there-yet writers who have an idea they want to share, and if I am touched by something I read I say so. And if I can't praise it I try to find something to honor in it. And if it just is totally not my bag I leave it alone, and if that is what that writer primarily posts I don't read them.

What's so hard about live-and-let-live?

[bellatemple]

I never do any of those memes. They're like this giant sign saying "paste wank here". It's not like the internet doesn't give you wiggle room to be as anonymous as you want in general, anyway. . . .

In short:



(omg, I actually got to use one of my few gifs I'm now saving up!)

[ink-maid.livejournal.com]

Ugh wtf. Anon memes are stupid. I don't think I've ever seen anything good come out of one. It's just a place for people to air their grievances without worrying about being caught and having to actually talk things out.


I'm sorry you got dragged into that idiocy though. ): That's just not right.

[claudiapriscus.livejournal.com]

Why does anyone bother? Really, what does it matter? Of course, I've been asking this question a lot recently. I've come to the conclusion that there are way way way too many people in this world who do indeed still think they're in high school.

[pkwench.livejournal.com]

Oh, fandom, you'll never stop amazing me. It's just so frustrating because I've met some of the most awesome people from fandom - from the Voyager days to TXF to SPN. Shit, even anime, Lost, and Bpal - and them's some batshit crazy folk out there in the perfume world. But there's so many talented, fun, and just generally great people out there and it seems that those who just enjoy hanging out and having a good time writing, geeking, collecting (in the case of the perfume) are so often overshadowed by the wank. And it seems to happen about the same way in about every fandom that I've run across. I just love the anonymous factor that's crept out in the past few years. At least when I was raging hellcunt in the past (and, hooboy, was I) everyone knew who to hate. This whole I wanna hate on you, but not let everyone know that I did it so that no one will be mean to me thing? WEAK. Balls, fandom. You too can grow them. Er, however metaphorically.

Anyway, I think you're awesome. So poo on anonymous gits. I am now, however, sickly curious to know where to spy on said meme. You know you want to tell me.

[zoemathemata.livejournal.com]

The anon meme is like... IDK, some kind of plague that just keeps flaring up.

Life is too short to be mean and wanky.

I feel bad for them. their lives must be kinda sad and lonely if they get any kind of joy out of being haters, you know?

[saberivojo.livejournal.com]

I stumbled on the anon meme once and read a few bits of it. I haven't gone back. To each his own I guess but I don't respect anyone who doesn't have the cajones to speak their mind and sign their name. Hell, this is LJ, even our names are made up. But if I have something to say, good or bad, you will know it is from me.

I suppose there are some people who just want to bitch but hey - if you have a complaint or something makes you crazy,let everyone know about it and let them know why and let them know who is making the statement. That is the only way to make an impact. The only impact these folks make is that some people get caught in the crossfire and they get hurt.

This is supposed to be a fun, supportive community. That is how I think of it. You folks are my friends. Just because we don't meet for a beer or a cup of tea does not mean I don't care.

If you care about your friends, you don't treat them this way.

Period.

[wicked-crayon.livejournal.com]

Anon memes always remind me of the people I know who are just too into gossip. I mean, I'm not gonna lie, I enjoy a bit of gossiping now and then... but I know people who seem to only have friends in order to mine them for information.

In my experience, nothing good really comes out of it. Sure, some people are able to be more honest than if they were not anon, but honesty is so not always the best policy. There is something to be said for speaking your mind, but doing it tactfully.

At least the anon-meme is relatively easy to ignore. My favorite method of coping is the same as infants: if I don't see it, it doesn't exist!

[jesseofthenorth.livejournal.com]

Ahmen.
I tripped over that stupid anon-thingy once and it was enough for me. What a load of mean spirited crap!
I wish the writers I adore would quit reading that garbage and getting their feelings hurt.

Not you too! Hell!

[dante-s-hell.livejournal.com]

I say we sick Lucifer on 'em.

Seriously, I'm sorry you've been side-swiped by these hurtful people. I just don't understand the reason people are compelled to criticize something they know nothing about. I can only speculate that they are petty, jealous individuals who secretly wish for just an iota of your talent for writing.

Again, I'm terribly sorry you had to experience this. You are an all around nice person that makes everyone feel welcome. It sucks that this has happened.

Feel free to PM me if you'd like to vent. *Hugs*

[tahirire.livejournal.com]

Oh dude, that's awesome! I have arrived, too! Well - I arrived sometime not too long after the finale meta I posted, lol.

GO US!! *highfives*

[sg2009fic.livejournal.com]

I have no idea what this anon meme is about but I am sorry you were side-swiped by it. Fanfiction and fandom are for 1) fun and 2) writing practice and story-telling in a universe we didn't create but want to play around in. I've never quite understood why some people go out of their way to pick things apart and to do so anonymously...well...that just sounds gutless. It's not like our LJ handles are labeled with our addresses or anything either. FYI - I've enjoyed your writing and your metas and comments even when your opinion might differ from mine. So...to conclude...you rock!

[tifaching.livejournal.com]

I've had flisties just killed there and it makes me want to scream. When I first heard about it I went and read what they were saying and Jesus, it was like I was back in high school. It was the first and last time I will EVER to there. Anon bashing is cowardice. Don't like, don't read. This is SUPPOSED to be for fun! Sorry you got side swiped, don't let the haters get you down!

[animotus.livejournal.com]

if you have an opinion strong enough to express, then stand up and OWN IT
YES!

[mimblexwimble.livejournal.com]

Yikes. *hugs*